Archive for SIMPLE LIVING

Soap, naturally

I’m a simple woman and I like simple things.   I don’t like a lot of complication in my life.  Several years ago I started simplifying my life, partly out of economic reasons, but mostly out of ethical and philosophical reasons.  I’ve tried to reduce my consumption and  reduce my waste.  I look for simple, natural ingredient lists, and I’ve migrated to more natural products.  I’ve reduced my reliance on western medicine and increased my reliance on natural healing.  My journey has taken me in directions I never imagined. I’m studying to be a healing touch practitioner and certified clinical aromatherapist, and will be opening my own practice in the near future.  I started making my own homemade soap, and personal care products and hand crafted jewelry using raw and natural materials.   I make my own laundry detergent, home crafted kombucha,  I crochet blankets, I cook, I sew, I bake bread.   I absolutely adore crafting things with my own hands, and trying to get as close to natural as possible.     I love knowing the ingredients in the things I put on and in my body.

I’ve spent years researching and developing my own recipes and line of products.  During all of my research and development, things got far more complicated than I thought they would.  So all along the way, the mantra that returned time and time again was “keep it simple and uncomplicated”.

Life shouldn’t be complicated so I go for straightforward, natural, high quality,  fine ingredients and products that are as hassle-free as possible.

I’ve come up with my simple little line of products.  Nothing fancy.  Nothing extravagant, just pure, clean, simple, effective, fine products and beautiful jewelry that serve a purpose.

My recipes are short and simple, and my inventory is small.    The base of all soap is coconut oil.  I love coconut oil!    use it in cooking, baking, on my skin, it’s my make-up remover.  I feed it to my dog.  It’s  simply amazing. This medium chain of fatty acids makes for the perfect oil. It is in virtually all of my products: soaps, lotions, lip balms.  Coconut oil is highly cleansing, antibacterial, anti-inflammatory, soothing,  and healing.

My other favorite oils are Argan oil (organic only) and jojoba oil.   Argan is a rich, non-greasy cold-pressed oil that is anti-aging and conditioning.  Jojoba oil is actually a wax that is very similar to our own natural skin sebum.

I use therapeutic grade pure essential oils that I source from a local Minneapolis distributor.

I don’t clutter my products with a lot of weird or useless ingredients.  Everything serves a purpose.

My sea salt spa bars are dreamy.  Salt is a natural detoxifier, it creates a lotion-like creamy lather, it imparts healing magnesium, potassium, calcium and zinc minerals to your skin, which help reduce inflammation. It is mildly exfoliating, balance the natural oils in your skin, and actually acts as a humectant (adds moisture) to your skin.  It also seems to make your bar of soap last longer.

This is what I’ve been working on.  If you are interested in purchasing any of my products, please hop over to my Etsy shop or click on a picture below.   You can find me at the Mound Farmer’s Market, starting May 20th.

Lavender Bar:  this is a beautiful hard white bar of soap.  Has incredible cleansing properties without being drying.  At first use, you may think that your skin is dry after use, but actually, it is simple very clean.  It does not strip your skin of the natural oils, and is not drying because is it super-fatted with coconut oil, But, it does not impart extra conditioning oils like some other soaps.  I always use lotion after showering anyway, so I would recommend using lotion as a general rule after cleansing with 100% coconut oil soaps.  Give it a try, I think you’ll love it.  The lather is sublime.  Ingredients: unrefined coconut oil, distilled water, sodium hydroxide, lavender essential oil.   Net wt: Approximately 4.5 oz.

 

Black and White Charcoal Salt Bar:  This is a lovely dexotifying salt bar.  I use charcoal and bentonite for the detox properties.  Sea salt helps with exfoliation.  Olive oil and shea add conditioning benefits.  This is a lovely face and body bar.  Ingredients:  Saponified coconut oil, olive oil, shea butter, sea salt, activated charcoal, bentonite clay, coconut milk, patchouli and lavender essential oils.  Approx weight: 4.5 oz.   Patchouli is anti-inflammatory, anti-septic and tonic.  Lavender is good for everything!

Frankincense and Myrrh Argan Facial Bar:  Argan oil is a wonderful moisturizing, healing, anti-aging oil. Frankincense and myrrh  are lovely oils that help heal your skin.  They help with scars, wrinkles, inflammation, soothing, infection.  In addition they lift your mood both emotionally and spiritually.  Ingredients:  Saponified coconut oil, argan oil, distilled water, frankincense, myrrh.  Approximate weight:  4.5 oz.

 

Gentle Enough for Baby Soap:   This is a castille-type soap.  Traditional castille soap is 100% olive oil, and usually takes 6 months to cure and harden.  My soap is a modified version of the tradition.  I use coconut oil for cleansing and lather, joboba oil, because it is similar in composition to our own skin oils, and olive oil, for the wonderful, gentle conditioning it offers.  This is a very gentle soap, but is not “no more tears”, and care should be taken when using on baby.  This soap is good for everyone, all over face and body.  Ingredients: Olive oil, unrefined coconut oil, jojoba oil, distilled water, sodium hydroxide, lavender essential oil.

 

Into the Woods Soap:  This soap is the same as my lavender 100% coconut oil soap, but with a woodsy blend of essential oils.  This soap is a nice, hard white bar of soap with glorious bubbles.  Super cleansing.  Ingredients: Unrefined coconut oil, distilled water, sodium hydroxide, rosemary, cedarwood, lavender and black pepper essential oils.  Approximate weight: 4.5 oz.

 

Dark Ale Juniper:  What could be more fun than beer?  I make it with coconut oil, shea butter and olive oil in a dark ale base.  The essential oils are juniper and cedarwood for a rustic, forest aroma.  Cedarwood is antiseptic, anti-infectious, calming, purifying, helps with anxiety, and is purifying.  Juniper is a great cleanser, calms the skin, good for dermatitis and acnes, and is emotionally balancing.  Ingredients:  coconut oil, sea butter, olive oil, sodium hydroxide, distilled water, dark ale beer, cedarwood and juniper essential oils.  Weight: approximately 4.5 oz.

 

Honeybee Lemon:  A friend asked me to make a lemon honey soap, so here is my version:  It’s a lovely bar of coconut oil, beeswax, olive oil, raw local honey, and lemon essential oil.It’s sweet and delicious.  Honey and beeswax both work as moisturizers, as well as being antibacterial.  This just reminds me of summer.  Ingredients:  Unrefined coconut oil, Olive oil, avocado oil, castor oil, beeswax, honey, distilled water, sodium hydroxide, essential oil.

CocoCoffee Salt Spa Bar:  This is a wonderfully aromatic coffee, chocolate and orange salt bar.  It’s exfoliating and invigorating.  Ingredients are coconut oil, distilled water, sodium hydroxide, sea salt, coffee grounds, cocoa powder, essential oils of tangerine, orange, grapefruit, black pepper, juniper.

 

Eucalyptamint Salt Spa Bar:  Take a deep breath and clear those sinuses!  Mmmmm!   So aromatic, and so mind clearing.  Eucalyptus, Peppermint and Rosemary essential oils all work well on the respiratory system. This bar contains coconut oil, sea salt, distilled water, sodium hydroxide and essential oils.

 

Banana Shampoo Bar:  Oh my goodness.  This is THE shampoo bar.  I’ve never been a fan of shampoo bars, because I find them to be a bit drying. But I hit the jackpot with this recipe.  It’s loaded with conditioning ingredients, and smells amazing and the lather is luscious.  It contains coconut oil, olive oil, castor oil, shea butter, cocoa butter, coconut milk, sodium hydroxide, egg yolks, banana, citric acid, vetiver essential oil, rose geranium essential oil.

 

A WORD about sodium hydroxide.  Sodium hydroxide is lye.  Is lye natural?  I’m not going to argue whether it is or isn’t natural.  I could make my own lye out of wood ash, but like I said before, I’m a simple woman, and that just seems far more complicated than I care to tackle.  To put it simply, NO LYE, NO SOAP.  Sodium hydroxide and fat react chemically, called saponification.  Once full saponification takes place, the lye is chemically changed and is no longer lye.  Some would argue that it needn’t even be listed in the ingredients, but I disagree with that.  I will always list it in my ingredients.  Also, if you ever see “saponified olive oil” or any other oil—-that’s a slightly deceptive way of saying olive oil and sodium hydroxide.

Remember:  what goes on your body will go in your body.  Your skin is your largest organ and it is very porous.  Next time you put something ON your skin, remember that it will end up IN  your body.  So, keep things simple, look for natural, and be sure there is  healing purpose in all you do.

PennySue Mueller

Penny Mueller
Email: Penny Mueller
www.pennysuemueller.com

 

 

 

Color Monthly

Coloring Therapy

No doubt you’ve seen all the adult coloring books, markers, colored pencils everywhere! I’ve even seen ads on TV and QVC for adult coloring books.  So, what is the big deal? Why all the hype?  

Well, have you colored lately? If you have, you know how relaxing and enjoyable it is. Coloring therapy is real, and it’s effective. When we color, studies have shown that we get into a serene state.  In fact, our brain waves are the same when we color as when we meditate.  What a fantastic way to help manage stress and anxiety.

Why should you color?

  • It’s relaxing
  • It’s enjoyable
  • It’s peaceful
  • You can do it anywhere
  • You can spend minutes or hours working on it-you get to decide
  • You can use your creations for any number of craft projects
  • You can form coloring clubs instead of book clubs
  • You can drink wine and color at the same time
  • You can manage your stress

 

One of the problems with coloring books is that it is difficult to color in a big book. What if you could download your pages, print them on your own choice of paper, and then color on a flat surface instead of struggling with a book?  

You should definitely join Color Monthly.  Here’s why:

  • You ‘ll get monthly downloads of coloring pages
  • You can print them unlimited times
  • You get to choose your paper: do you want to print on colored paper, card stock, texture, vellum?
  • Your downloads will be seasonal
  • You can make any number of crafts: greeting cards, tags, scrapbooking, wrapping, envelopes, artwork, etc
  • You only print the pages you like
  • You’ll never run out of coloring ideas

Color Monthly is launching it’s revolutionary, premier membership program tomorrow, February 16, 2017.  This is ground floor and innovative.  If you’d like to get in on the coloring craze, check out Color Monthly.

Its easy to join, it’s only $10, and, as a bonus, you can also earn while you color, if you’d like to maybe have a side biz going.  If you know people who like to color, what a great way to come together!

Please contact me so I can get you a link to join.  I’ll also add you to our private Facebook group.   And….. get ready for the launch tomorrow!

 PennySue Mueller

Penny Mueller
Email: Penny Mueller
www.pennysuemueller.com

 

 

 

Why Stress is Bad for Your Heart

Modern life is full of hassles.

Jobs, bills, mortgages, households to run, children to raise, demands, deadlines, frustrations, responsibilities! And then we add on more without even thinking. Continuing our education, working for that promotion, taking on a car payment,  remodeling the house, spinning all those plates and hoping one doesn’t fall.

Whether we realize it or not, whether we like it or not, our body responds.  And we have no control over it.  The nervous system releases a flood of stress hormones, including adrenaline and cortisol.  These hormones force the body to go into emergency response. The heart pounds faster, muscles tighten, blood pressure rises, breath quickens, your senses become sharper.  The purpose of all this is to get you to rise up and meet the challenges that you face.  We are preparing for fight or flight!

Stress related diseases are on the rise and are not only  affecting our ability to cope, but are also destroying our immune function. Read More→

GMOs and the New Classical Liberal

Are GMOs Bad?

These are my thoughts. I’m not here to prove anything, I don’t have a bunch of scientific research, facts, or papers that “prove” my opinions. Some of my closest friends say I’m too critical. (as if that’s a bad thing) I am critical. I look at the world as a critic. I’ve always been a skeptic of sorts. One of my colleagues, with tongue-in-cheek, tells me I need to stop asking “why?” so much, because it usually results in more work. I can’t help it. I need things to make sense in my world.

Are People Who Are Against GMOs  Stupid?

GMO fruitWhile listening to a local conservative morning radio show the other day, “they” were discussing a proposed bill regarding  GMO labeling. Rather than discuss the merits or flaws of the bill,  the show hosts chose to hail the goodness of GMOs by making claims without any substantiation. They proceeded to rip into the organic food movement, and equated anyone with those leanings to be idiots, lefties, liberals, socialists,  and hippies. Hmmmmm, I thought.   Why don’t I fit into any mold? I’m not a leftie, a liberal, a socialist, or an idiot. In discussing this with my son, he called me a classical liberal.

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Your Natural Medicine Cabinet and First Aid Kit Part 4

Natural Medicine Cabinet Item#4 Eucalyptus Oil

Fresh herbs in first aid kitAs you build your all natural first aid kit and medicine cabinet, you now have Lavender,   Peppermint, and Tea Tree essential oils, which are 3 of the staples of any aromatherapist. As you have read in the individual posts for those three oils, the list of things that they can do is impressive. No natural medicine cabinet or first aid kit would be complete without our next essential oil: Eucalyptus.

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Your Natural Medicine Cabinet and First Aid Kit Part 3

Natural Medicine Cabinet Item #3: Peppermint Oil

Fresh herbs in first aid kitThe third essential for your natural first aid kit and medicine cabinet is Peppermint Oil (mentha piperita), right there next to your Lavender and  Tea Tree oil. Peppermint is another essential oil that is a foundational item for everyone’s medicine cabinet and first aid kit. Peppermint has a fresh, piercing, minty aroma that acts as a dilator, or “opener”in the body. It opens up the lungs and veins to bring more air into the lungs and more blood to the brain. Peppermint can be used as a mental stimulant, to improve memory, increase efficiency and productivity. It is a great way to fight sleepiness, fatigue, and mental fog.

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Your Natural Medicine Cabinet and First Aid Kit Part 2

Natural Medicine Cabinet  Item #2:   Tea Tree Oil

The second item you need in your natural first aid kit and medicine cabinet is Tea Tree Oil, right there next to your  Lavender. Tea Tree oil  is another essential oil that is a foundational item for everyone’s medicine cabinet and first aid kit. Tea Tree Oil is a basic essential oil, but has countless uses. If you’ve never smelled Tea Tree oil, it is not necessarily aromatically pleasing like lavender, rather it has a medicinal, terpene, antiseptic aroma. Despite the strong odor, it is very gentle and can be used neat (undiluted) on adult skin.

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Your Natural Medicine Cabinet and First Aid Kit Part 1

Lavender Essential Oil

Lavender (Lavender angustifolia) is generally regarded as the most versatile therapeutic  essence and if you have only one essential oil in your home medicine cabinet, first aid kit, car or purse, Lavender is the one to have.

It is both strong and gentle and can be used “neat” (undiluted) directly on the skin. Beware, however, because as amazing and therapeutic Lavender is, it is also the most corrupted essential oil on the market. Take care to buy True Lavender, Lavendula angustifolia.  Read More→

Minnesota: winter and road construction; kinda like my life

Minnesota has two seasons: winter and road construction

Road Work Ahead Sign

My life is like road construction

If you’ve ever lived through road construction here, you know all about the countless detours, roadblocks, pot holes, closed off-ramps, closed on-ramps, crumbling bridges that are falling down, and not to mention passive-aggressive drivers (so typical of Minnesota), angry drivers, and buick drivers (you know who I’m talking about…..the ones who won’t take that Buick past 50mph in the fast lane). The roads and bridges in Minnesota are a mess and worry-free routes are few and far between. Kind of like my life: in perpetual road construction.

Over the past several years, I have experienced numerous major life-changing events.

Many of them were purposeful and intentional. Exactly one year ago, I sold my big house of 19 years, bought a tiny cottage near the lake, and had plans to downsize, simplify, get back to basics, unwind, relax, and enjoy life by the lake. The sailing was smooth and the winds were light. I even landed a fabulous job with excellent pay. What could be better? I downsized my mortage payment by 60% and I increase my income by 50%. Finally, things were looking good! But as so often is the trend in my world, fair weather is often short-lived. The winds picked up, the storm blew in, and I got relentlessly slammed in the face, time after time after time, like a Minnesota blizzard in February.

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Is There a Bullying Culture in Wayzata?

Bullying in Wayzata

Last week I wrote a little blog post that asked questions about suicide in the Wayzata School District, the High School, in particular. Never, in a million years, did I dream that my post would cause such an uproar. I had no idea that asking questions of the District or commenting on Wayzata in less than a positive light was taboo.  I also didn’t realize that over the years, the decades, even, people who have attempted to speak out have been silenced.  The silenced stories are heartbreaking and dark. And they need to be told, and they will be eventually.

6337525967_49a46c72c5_mToday, the dust has settled,  the commotion has lessened, and the ‘fallout’ is fading.  After fielding hundreds of comments, now I can reflect. What a learning experience this was! The things I learned are sad, scary,and  disturbing.

Bullying is a culture in Wayzata

and it starts with the adults.  Anyone who would deny that is living in such a delusional rose-colored  la-la land that they are probably beyond help. Bullying is a problem and I will show you.

After I published my blog post last week, the events that followed were  quite surprising. My story begins minutes after I published the letter about suicide in Wayzata when I received a phone call from the principal. He is not a bully and I am not calling him a bully. His words speak for themselves.  He was gracious and we had a nice conversation. While he did not ask me to take the post down, he did say that the reason for his call was because he had been alerted about my blog post and the negative message with which I portrayed Wayzata.

For more than a week I fielded comments and I learned how vicious people are. For a week, I fielded comments. Many were supportive, many were less than supportive. What  caught  me off-guard by the degree of vitriol. A post about teen suicide turned into a three-ring circus by bullies who crawled out of the woodwork like cockroaches and attempted to dominate the conversation.

I read,  re-read, and read again my article  and I do not regret a word that I said in that post. What I do regret is that I allowed comments by cowards with fake names and email addresses. Anonymity allowed people to leave comments  that they wouldn’t have said if their kids knew their identity. Anonymity is a dangerous thing. It affords people the freedom to say horrible, nasty, hurtful, threatening things while hiding cowardly in the shadows. Anonymity allows people to say things in the dark that they’d never say in the light.  Anonymity allows people to forget manners, courtesy, respect, kindness, compassion.  Anonymity allows adults to hide behind their cowardice and  forget that they are supposed to be role models to our kids.  Anonymity makes it really easy to be a bully.

The internet enables bullying like nothing else.

I did not write my open letter to Wayzata under a cloak of anonymity, I wasn’t hiding, everyone knew who I was, yet people thought  it was okay to hide in the shadows, launch attacks at me behind their ‘cute’  and  ‘clever’ user names bogus email addresses. They believed that they had “the right” to comment however they wanted, and that if I didn’t post their comments, I was denying their rights, and they called me gutless.   People hiding in the dark like rats without an identity for all to see came into my blog and demanded rights!  I was stymied.  When I reminded those anonymous  cowards that it was my blog, and my discretion to post or not to post their comments and suggested that if they didn’t like it, they were certainly free to start their own blog,  they called me childish and immature.

This quote is from a commenter to the blog post and she sums  up the  Wayzata bullying culture nicely:

“THIS is depressing as a person who is trying to get through stuff now. It’s like there’s no hope of that mentality ever changing. Timing is everything though, I needed to see it now, and thank you for being brave, its costly! And yes, you’re an adult, so really, like we EVER had a chance as kids. We did not. People are on attack, again, the students are giving their stories, good, bad. It’s the adults that make my heart black and heavy. Here it all is, the way it was, the way it is and dammit( I know, I swear?) the way it will remain until someone wakes the ___ up. Peace to you Penny.”  

Until last week, I didn’t think bullying was this bad in Wayzata

While I feel lucky that some of my kids got through Wayzata unscathed, I am left with a bad taste in my mouth and  am unsure of the future and safety of my last child in the District. As an adult, I can take this ‘backlash’. I have the life experience to handle it, to process it, and deal with it.  I cannot even imagine having to deal with this kind of thing THAT HAPPENS EVERY DAY IN SCHOOL- as a kid. And yet, our kids are being taught that this kind of behavior is okay by the bully adults of Wayzata.  Shivers run up and down my spine as I think about it.

But now, I  have no doubt that Wayzata has a bullying problem,

yet there are people who are quick to deny it.  After all, there are “Respect Retreats”, and they wear orange bullying awareness t-shirts. I’m told by students that they don’t like the respect retreats because they don’t work. Eveyone makes nice for a day, and then they go back to their natural mean behavior. And the t-shirts…..”.lot’s of people wear orange shirts”, I’m told. A t-shirt isn’t going to do anything or change anything”.

This is what Wayzata bullying looks like:

“I’m not saying it is okay [bullying], I’m just saying that you’d be a fool to not expect some type of backlash REGARDLESS of whether this is Wayzata, Tonka, or a small little school in the middle of nowhere. I’m not condoning the 1 or 2 people that can make threats behind a computer screen but I think that you need to realize its not Wayzata’s bullying problem that is leading to this. I also think that you are hypocritical saying that Todays society think its okay to JUST SHUT DOWN anyonethey dont agree with because I feel you are doing the same.”

This was written by an anonymous writer, and my question is how am I being hypocritical when I’m out here, being who I am, asking questions, and demanding people step up?

“You are so hypocritical it baffles me and I can’t believe you haven’t realized your idiotic and ridiculous accusations and your method of conveying them is 100% your fault and you should realize that in todays society (ANYWHERE IN THE WORLD) that if you post something controversial you should be prepared to face the consequences because its inevitable.”
“If you’re going to have the audacity to post something this accusatory then you should be willing to take the backlash that follows. You would think a grown woman would have the maturity to realize this but I guess it takes a college student to attempt to set you straight (which will fail since you fail to recognize any flaws of your argument and only attempt to sadly defend your ridiculous post.”

Is that the same as if you are female and you wear a low-cut dress, you should expect to be raped?

“I can tell you’ve been backed into a corner. Your aggressive, panicked, I-am-right-no-matter-how-disproved-I-am defense is pretty pathetic. Stop protecting your argument and start taking real action as a parent to your children.”

–This was rich…..they even called me “God”—-posted by someone who has so much time on their hands that they took the effort to create the fake screen name “pennyisgod” and bogus email address pennyisgod@god.com—feel free to email him or her!

“I DARE YOU TO TURN ME IN! I was not threatening you. You just have to know what fall out you are creating for yourself. In no way did I ever threaten you or your child. I ask that you find help and peace with this. SO SO sad. AND in case you didn’t read it the first time. BRING THIS TO THE POLICE . Please!  Maybe they can get you help.”
“You are a child. I am not the one looking for press on this as it is obviously your intent. I do have teenagers and 4 well-adjusted children. This is not a threat when I just say STOP. STOP this insane rant and let it go. You are making more and more enemies the longer this goes on. That’s a promise. I feel sorry for your daughter. She’ll be the one who will more than likely get the fall out from your big, insensitive, arrogant mouth next year when school starts.”
“…you are not doing anything but making yourself appear attention-seeking.”
“You are treading on dangerous territory”
“If your intentions were to get your name out there. mission accomplished, but the cost to you dear Penny Sue, I’m afraid for your days ahead
“you’ve mentioned your brother several times. Did you blame his school for his suicide?”

I didn’t get into the bullying that my brother endured his entire life. He killed himself when he was 25 years old.

I simply do not understand how you are sure the school is RIDDLED with bullying, peer pressure, horrifically mean people. This is NOT our reality.”
“shut it down”
“I am embarrassed for you for saying that. I get that you may feel attacked but what were you expecting from this blog post? You sound like a 13 year-old girl, not an adult. When you deliberately attack the school, you’re going to get some backlash. I hope you have the guts to show this comment on your blog but I definitely won’t be surprised if you don’t.”

(I published it)

“No wonder he divorced you! Unwilling to listen to other viewpoints and completely accusatory!”
“You are throwing out guesses as facts and it’s disturbing.”
“So grateful my mother had enough pragmatism to never behave in this childish manner while I was in high school. I would have never learned how to address tough life circumstances if I was being raised by someone who resorted to babbling theatrics.”

And I’ll bet she didn’t teach you that the problem with society is that it is
overrun with sheep and conformists.

Some of us still teach our kids the Golden Rule: Treat people the way you want to be treated. People are fed up. Most of us are just average, ordinary people. We love God, we love our town and we believe in a moral code. We don’t threaten anybody. We don’t go online and cower in the shadows and make threats to people. We have been abused, impugned, lied about. We’re called hypocrits, sensationalists, liars, pompous, ill-informed, poor writers, and childish. We’re the furthest thing in the world from any of that. But some people are called that because they have the guts to speak out, stand up, stand for something, and call for change.

Nobody’s perfect. But I see things in Wayzata careening out of control. I’m just an ordinary person, offering my opinion on my little blog, yet Wayzata is threatened by me? No, I don’t think they are scared of me. They’re angry. They despise that I spoke negatively of Wayzata. They are mad that I asked some questions to which lots of people would like answers. They are mad that some really dark things are coming to light.

What am I going to do about bullying?

Well, I have a lot of ideas, and I’ve already started. First, no more anonymity. I’m not going to stand for bullies. Not on this blog. I learned how immature people really are.  When I stopped allowing people to comment unless they included first and last name, and a verifiable email address, the most interesting thing happened: the nasty comments stopped. Suddenly, without the cloak of anonymity they don’t feel so comfortable and free to insult, attack, threaten. It’s so easy to be a cyber-bully, sitting in your glass house throwing stones. Take away your anonymity, and you aren’t so brazen are you?  Are you afraid of what your children might think if they found out that you were one of the bullies that posted to this blog?

I’m not afraid, because my kids, and their friends, and my friends, and hundreds upon hundreds of kids are proud because I took a stand and spoke up for the voiceless.  I said out loud what a lot of people were thinking.  And again, never in a million years, did I think that writing a blog that asked questions about the suicides in Wayzata School District would be considered a brave thing to do.

How to stop bullying in one step:

Treat people the way you want to be treated.

Do you have a story to tell?  Please leave a comment. Let’s open up the conversation.

 

To comment, a first and last name is required along with a verifiable email address.  If you have been the victim and wish to remain private, leave your comment and I will contact you privately about editing and protecting you.  All comments will remain unpublished until approved by me.

 

PennySue Mueller

 

Penny Mueller
Email: Penny Mueller
www.pennysuemueller.com